Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Day 10- Someone You Need to Let Go, or Wish You Didn't Know

I'm not exactly comfortable blogging about this subject. I know I am going to get a lot of questions from my friends about the person in this blog. A very select few will know who it is, and some may be able to figure it out. But this is a blog challenge, so I'm going to go for it and speak about what's really on my mind.

I have a friend, who I would say is somewhat close to me (I know she believes we are closer friends than I do). I am going to refer to this friend as "Female X." I have known Female X for more than 10 years. My first impression of her was not good from the start, and I never really forgot that.

Female X is what I consider a toxic bachelorette. She goes through guys faster than anyone else I know. She gets emotionally and sexually attached very quickly. When I mean quickly, I mean within a week or two, which sometimes is how long the dating/relationship lasts. So my other friends and I have had to deal with countless occurrences where she felt heartbroken and we would have to cheer her up and encourage her that the right man is out there somewhere.

Going out with Female X socially is an adventure, to say the least. All she wants to do is guy hunt or invite guys that she likes to hang out with us. She seems to be the type of person that NEEDS to have a guy in her life to make things worthwhile. I personally don't recall a time where she just stopped and took time for herself. She is in desperate need of time to herself (by choice, not by default) so she can work on some self discovery. If she doesn't do this, she will never be able to know what she truly wants in her personal and romantic life.

The personal drama that Female X creates in her life is exhausting. That's why I feel that if I just let her out of my life, I would have better peace of mind. Just the simple fact of her being a toxic bachelorette bugs me, since if I am ever out with her, people could associate her with me. I don't need that kind of association in my life.

So, to Female X.... if you don't get yourself together and work on some self-discovery, you are going to lose me as a friend. I've dealt with your dramas long enough and if I have to sever ties with you, I won't regret it. Good luck.


  1. I don't know this person so I would hate to offend them but I think we all have THAT friend. Just sayin.

  2. Hmm I don't have that friend. Mainly because I cut people liek that out like a cancer.

  3. I have a friend who I had "lost" contact with (more like I allowed the contact to fade) for about 15 years. He's loyal and generous in many ways, but he's incredibly opinionated and often abrasive. Recently, he and his wife were having some troubles and he told me I SHOULD give up my apartment and get a place with him. Not asking if I'd like to, but implying that he knows what's best for me. I often wonder if he has any idea why I'm reticent to speak with him.